Balance: Not too much, not too little, just enough.
The balance between routine and getting kids to try some other things, that they might not want to right at first, but with some enticement, you pretty much know they'd like it.
Balance between being way organized/controlling, and accepting unexpected opportunities.
Other balance points?
No chat on Christmas; next chat, New Year's Day, January 1 chat: Time. Years. Seasons. Months. Weeks. Daytime, nighttime. Days. Moments.
sandradodd.com/time is probably less familiar to you than sandradodd.com/moment
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