This might be a hard one.
It seems harsh to suggest that the more a parent is with a child, the more time she will have to herself, ultimately. It would be harsher to say "Yeah, whatever; you deserve lots of private time," at the risk of breaking some of the bond and trust unschooling needs.
Examples and links to prior discussions might be helpful.
Sorry the notice is late. I forgot! :-)
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